Dealing with Grief Workshop

Dealing with Grief Workshop

September 20 - 27, 2019

Grief Is the effect. To deal with grief, it is necessary to address the cause of grief. 

The cause of grief appears to be the loss of a loved one, the breakup of a marriage, the loss of a job, the loss of a friend, the loss of status, failure, loss of an opportunity, etc. But these external causes are just the triggers for grief. The real cause of grief lies deeper. It lies in the thinking. 

My Experience with Grief 

My mother died in a small plane crash in 2010. The accident devastated our whole family because not only did she die but my step-brother and his wife died with her. 

My way to deal with my own grief has been to write down my thoughts and to question each one slowly and carefully using a simple method called The Work of Byron Katie (The Work). After my mom died, I did The Work every day for two months on her death. I wrote down every stressful thought that came up for me and I questioned it. 

What I found was that when I questioned my thoughts, my grief slowly lifted. After two months, I no longer felt grief at the thought of my mom’s death. I was left only feeling love for her. Since that time nine years ago, my grief has not come back. I think of her often, but with love, no longer with sadness. 

This Didn’t Happen By Magic

The shift from grief to love did not happen by chance. I was not one of the “lucky ones.” My relief came from a systematic questioning of my thinking. 

This is what I offer to you in this 7-day, in- residence workshop in Austria. Whatever you may be grieving, we will all come together to help each other question the thinking that causes grief. This is a very meditative experience. But I think you will also find that it comes with a lot of laughter as well. 

About Presenters

Maria S
Todd S

Todd Smith is a certified facilitator since 2013. He is dedicated to practicing The Work of Byron Katie and sharing it with others.

Additional Information

What if I don’t have any grief? Can I still come? 

We tend to think of grief as something that happens when someone dies, or when a big loss happens. But I like to think that every stressful experience, no matter how small, is a version of grief. These small twinges of sadness, even anger, are reactions to the fact that things didn’t go the way we wanted them to. 

This is a small version of grief. And while we may get over it in a short amount of time, we can also take more time to look closely at it. I do The Work of Byron Katie as a regular practice, and what I discover from questioning my stressful thoughts about “small” incidents is equally powerful as what I discover from working “the big ones.” 

In reality, there is very little difference between “big” and “small” versions of grief. As I have continued to do my work, I find that I am becoming more immune to grief. If you want to work on preventive maintenance by doing this work, I encourage you to join us. You can do The Work on the “grief” of not getting what you want in a relationship, at work, with money, with family, etc. Even losing a game, if stressful, can be a window into the mind. Join us, and let’s do The Work together. 

Please email Maria Stachel to reserve a seat

Landhofmühle hotel in the beautiful Austrian countryside

1200,-€ (includes tuition, accommodation and vegetarian meals) 

Lodging and vegetarian meals included.


Please contact Todd directly.